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Be Original

Stand out from the crowdDon’t copy and paste your way through life. While it is easy to go along with what others are doing, what others like and what others don’t like, we need to nurture our own individuality.

 While we have all the sayings like “The world would be a boring place if we all liked the same things”, really think about this statement.
If everyone liked the same sports team, where would the drive come from for friendly rivalry? If we all liked the same restaurant, we would never get a seat. If we all liked the same travel destinations, we would never explore our world.

When you go your own way, others will find you interesting and respect you for not jumping on the band wagon. Of course you will have some that don’t agree with your point of view and they have a right to do that just as much as you have the right to form your own opinions.

The path of least resistance may be to follow others however, if you suppress our own feelings and opinions the price to pay will be your own happiness.

Be yourself and don’t worry what others think of you. Don’t spend your life trying to please everyone else all the time. Be original you!

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National Parent’s Day

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National Parent’s Day is recognized today in the United States. This day aims to promote responsible parenting and highlight positive parental role models. Responsible parenting requires focus, investment and commitment. Today is a day to recognize and celebrate those in our lives who have influenced ourselves and others in a parental way.

Commitment and unconditional love are core values that are important for all families to thrive. They are vital to children’s growth and development and they develop strong positive bonds between parental figures and the children.

Responsible parenting is vital in creating not only positive and strong families but also stronger communities as well. All across the country we see parents stepping up to create and maintain a nurturing and positive environment for their own children as well as others in the community.

Parental influences come in many forms. Besides parents, support comes from Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles and other relatives, neighbors, teachers, friends and so much more. Take the time today to recognize the people in your life that have shown you guidance and love.

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Will my child make a difference in the world?

themorethatyoureadMany parents aspire that their children will grow up and become an important member of their community that will influence others in a positive manner.  But are there things parents can do to mold their kids to become these types of people?

Get out there are get involved. Children who are exposed to different experiences will be well-rounded. Get them to try sports, gymnastics or dancing. Enroll them in playschool or preschool. Arrange play dates or go to the park. They will learn how to be social and how to interact with others.

Read to them! If you instill the love of reading in your child, there are no limits to what your child will learn. These lessons may lead to all kinds of adventures and experiences. Referring to Dr. Seuss “The more you read, the more you will know. The more that you know the more places you’ll go.” This can not be truer.

Be a good role model. Parents have the most influence in a child’s early life and that is something to take seriously. By watching and mimicking what we do, our children experiment with different actions, attitudes, language and emotions. None of us is perfect but if we remain aware of our little copy cats; we should always display loving, caring and positive behavior. Don’t forget that they are always watching. Does your child talk negatively? Are they worrying? Do they argue with others? Take a look at your own behavior and chances are, this is the way you are behaving whether you are aware or not.

The bottom line is that we need to support and accept our children for who they are. Trying to make them fit a certain mold will only lead to dissatisfaction for both of you and cause strained relationships. Some will grow prominent in the spotlight of society. Others will make a difference in more subtle ways. Give them the right nurturing and then watch them blossom. They will most certainly amaze you with their beauty.

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How do I ensure my children know that I love them?

One of the most important things for a child is to know that they are loved. Telling your child you love them every single day is a wonderful start. Knowing that their parents love them helps children interact with people in the world in a confident manner. There are many other things that parents can do to help create a loving family. Here are just a few.

Starting with a strong foundation helps to keep everything stable. Many parents forget to nurture the relationship with each other once they have children. Don’t forget that it is that love that brings the children into the world. We should also remember that these little bundles of joy will grow up and move away and we will again be left with each other. This is all the more reason to ensure we make time for each other every day. Children will see that their parents love and value each other and this will increase the joy and love in the home.

At times we are all How to love a child but children need to know that their parents are grateful for them and that they are an important part of the family. Showing unconditional love and acceptance for them regularly is necessary for keeping them happy and thriving. Show an interest in the things your children likes and that will open the door for them to know that they can talk with you about anything.

Listen to your children. Really listen. Stop what you are doing and look at them with your undivided attention. Show them that you value their opinions and perspectives even if you don’t agree with them. Allow them to finish what they want to say before jumping to conclusions. Everyone wants to be heard no matter how insignificant the conversation may be.

Spend time with your children with the intention of focusing on them. We all have times when we are with our children but our focus is often on other tasks. Take them for a walk, go to the park, play a game or read a book. Leave the cell phone behind, turn off the TV, stop trying to multitask. Your children will notice how much attention you are giving to them and will love every minute of it…so will you.

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Happy Earth Day!

imagesCAI7TVT1Today is great opportunity to talk with your kids about the impact we have on our planet. No matter how small we think our actions are, they can add up to fantastic results!

Here are some easy things the whole family can do to help protect our planet:

1. Turn off the lights when you leave the room.
2. Don’t let the water run when brushing your teeth.
3. Turn off electronics when not in use.
4. Recycle cans, bottles and paper.
5. Donate clothes and toys you no longer use.

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Nails in the fence

sadThere once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, “You have done well son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can hurt a man physically but it won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound will still be there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.”

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Tips on Misbehavior

misbehaviorDealing with misbehaving children is certainly a test of patience. Fortunately, there are effective ways to deal with our children’s undesirable behavior. Here’s a 5 step plan to keep things in order.

1. Make a list of things your kids would miss if they lost. This could be video games, TV, a favorite toy, computer time etc. If they misbehave, it gets taken away.

2. Decide which battles you are going to fight. Kids benefit from knowing what they absolutely cannot get away with. For example, if calling other people names is NEVER allowed, make sure they know that.

3. Have a family meeting to talk about your expectations so nobody can say they didn’t know what the rules are. Spell it out clearly what you will enforce and exactly how you will do it.

4. Issue one warning. Kids benefit from a warning, because it gives them a chance to stop misbehaving and to prepare for what will happen if they don’t. Don’t get into a big debate about what they are doing wrong. If you had your family meeting, they will know or will soon figure it out when you enforce the punishment.

5. Be very, very consistent. This is so important! Be as consistent as humanly possible! They will test you and test you and test you. If you give in you will be tested to no end and you kids will not take you seriously.

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Family Day

Happy familySeveral Canadian provinces recognize the upcoming Family Day holiday. So what will you are doing with your family? Here are 50 ideas for all different ages. Invite cousins, friends and neighbors too!

Too many options? Write them down on pieces of paper, fold and put in a jar. Take turns drawing from the jar.

1. Make popcorn and watch a movie.
2. Make play dough. Yes, homemade play dough! Click here for a great recipe.
3. Go to the library and take out books, videos or audio recordings.
4. Take a trip to the museum.
5. Have coloring contests. Don’t forget the prizes!
6. Plan an indoor picnic.
7. Have night breakfast (breakfast food dinner).
8. Hold cooking classes in your kitchen, invite friends. Homemade pizzas are always a hit.
9. Go biking or sledding.
10. Learn magic tricks together and put on a show.
11. Rent dance videos and hold a dance contest.
12. Have a photo taking contest.
13. Have a video game tournament.
14. Create a collage using pictures from magazines.
15. Volunteer at a soup kitchen.
16. Make cupcakes and have a decorating party.
17. Have an ice cream buffet with all kinds of toppings and sprinkles.
18. Play online games together.
19. Hold a family game night.
20. Design a family website.
21. Make a family photo album.
22. Press flowers and make cards.
23. Decorate homemade thank-you notes so they are ready as needed.
24. Play charades.
25. Draw pictures and mail to other family members.
26. Collect rocks and paint them.
27. Wash the family cars together.
28. Make macaroni jewelry and art.
29. Visit playgrounds and local parks.
30. Make an indoor fort and camp out for a night.
31. Take nature walks.
32. Go fishing.
33. Play flashlight tag.
34. Dig a fort in the snow.
35. Do brain teasers.
36. Play card games.
37. Decorate clay pots and plant seeds in them.
38. Do jigsaw puzzles.
39. Play a family memory game. i.e. What are the names of your great-grandparents?
40. Make a collage of what you are thankful for.
41. Write love and appreciation letters to each other.
42. Eat dessert as the first course of a meal.
43. Read to each other from joke books.
44. Do science experiments.
45. Go bowling.
46. Play indoor golf.
47. Each child collects things they don’t use anymore and donate to a shelter.
48. Have a fashion show.
49. Study a topic and hold a debate.
50. Try to break a world record.

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Ten Ways to Help Kids Believe in Themselves

Developing children collect and hold beliefs from parents, authority figures, friends, experiences and even the media. By examining our children’s beliefs we can identify negative beliefs that limit them. It’s time to turn around all the negatives and turn them into positives! Next time you hear your child say something negative, correct them by suggesting a positive statement and getting them to repeat it.

1) Instead of “school work is hard,” try “I can improve.”
2) Instead of “I hate the way I look” try “I am unique and beautiful.”
3) Instead of “I can’t stand people criticizing me,” try “I can handle criticism.”
4) Instead of “People don’t treat me very good” try “I respect myself and others.”
5) Instead of “Nobody likes me,” try “Some people like me.”
6) Instead of “I must be perfect,” try “I can learn from my mistakes.”
7) Instead of “I can’t do it because it’s too scary” try “I am brave and confident.”
8) Instead of “Lying gets you out of trouble,” try “I always tell the truth.”
9) Instead of “I am so stupid” try “I am smart and have great ideas”
10) Instead of “I have to do it this way,” try “I can do it different ways.”

Beliefs come down to a few simple words. Change a few words and your life can deeply change. By helping children develop positive beliefs, you help them love themselves!

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Being a Good Sport

good sportSome kids find it extra-hard to lose, but everyone needs to learn how to do it and how to deal with the disappointment. It takes practice but gets easier over time.

Everyone wants to win but anytime kids are facing each other in a game or contest, someone will lose. The thing to pay attention to is controlling the emotions. Sometimes kids lose when you are not around. These situations can be extra-hard if there are no grownups around to be the referees.

Kids who don’t freak out when they lose will become known as kids who are fun to play with – good sports. Kids might not be as eager to play with someone who gets angry all the time so learning to be a good sport is a great personality trait to have.

10 Ways to Be a Good Sport

1. Be polite to everyone you’re playing with and against. No trash talk while you’re in the middle of a game.
2. Don’t show off. Do your best and people will notice.
3. Tell your opponents “good game!” whether you win or lose.
4. Learn the rules of the game and show up for practices and games on time.
5. Listen to your coaches and follow their directions about playing.
6. Don’t argue with the referee even if you don’t agree with their decision.
7. Don’t make up excuses or blame a teammate when you lose. Try to learn from mistakes so you can do better next time.
8. Be willing to sit out so that all of your team mates get a chance to play.
9. Play fair – no cheating or unnecessary roughness.
10. Cheer for your teammates and don’t give up! Even if you are losing by a lot, encouraging your team could inspire a big comeback!

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